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spartacus: blood and sand is a series that premiered in starz in the usa in january 2010. it is historical fiction in that the characters did exist back in the day but the story has been augmented to have a very typical novel plot and greater dramatic substance. drama and conflict are things that sell massively, so once more, expect series, movies, books and all such to contain hearty amounts of them but don’t expect life to be like that at all. anyway, spartacus, the historical figure, was a pretty cool motherfucker, and along with hannibal of carthage is in his deeds a major role model and inspiration for men and players the world over: do some research on them to find out how big those dudes’ balls were and just what the limits to human endeavor are. then, follow such leads.
this series came to my attention because shinken, a great friend of mine recommended i checked it out. shinken is a self taught player, one of those erroneously called “naturals” instead of self taught. he had his relation with the fair gender mastered before he ran into any pua materials. attractive is who you are and what your life is, and you’ll get the ladies if you and your life are deserving; pua materials are only superficial stuff, so go for changes at the root. i have learned a great deal from shinken, and that’s the path i do recommend to become good at anything; figure out what kind of lifestyle you want, then befriend and surround yourself with people who are already there and build the lifestyle for yourself. shinken is a martial artist, he treats his body like a temple, as should everyone, and i’ll take a moment to describe his playing style in brief.
shinken has a low energy style, he doesn’t go out to be jumping around, he doesn’t fool around, and he does no warm-up sets or anything of the sort. he only talks to the ladies he’s attracted to, and then swings for the fences in what he communicates and projects. so, unless the ladies make themselves available by either standing right next to us, or by sending the typical signals (giving you the looks, arranging their hair, facing you and so on [a smile and hello work just fine then, you’re doing great in that case]) he invariably goes with some funny comment of a situation going on around us. he doesn’t push excessively or become touchy on first meeting a lady, he generates a solid connection, has her at ease and interested, gets her number and is happy to part. shinken’s phone game is amazing, he excels at getting ladies to agree to go dine or have a coffee with him, and then it is that he has purposeful moves galore and leads towards sex. one of the things that are amazing about shinken is that he is really good at selling sex and passion, he does no romance, tells no tales to the ladies to get in their panties, doesn’t treat them as girlfriends if that’s not what he’s into or try to buy his way to sex with gifts. he’s just good and confident in offering a pleasant fling, and more often than not, ladies will willfully go along. most women out there have never met a confident player on such level and when they do, they’ll make the most out of the opportunity.
you want to hit on beautiful women, and when they are being hit on, women will always size a man up, it’s instinctive and they’ll always do it. and when sizing a man up, they will have two questions in mind. – does this guy have balls? does this guy have spine? – and – does this guy know what he’s doing? -. pretty much that’s it, no nothing about your car, your income, your family or having model looks being indispensable; nothing about your future plans, your opinion on marriage and how many kids you have thought of having. when you’re good enough, ladies ironically won’t even wonder if you have a girlfriend or a lot of success with other ladies, they’ll just follow their feelings. you’ll always be even better off if you can get a woman to just go along and actually never consciously ask herself those two questions i mentioned. how do you do that? women will see if you have balls from the things you do, mostly your non verbal communication, and they’ll also check if they feel masculinity in your vibe. if you exude this quality, women won’t test you at all, that would be redundant and women are way above that. another key is the matter of feelings, if you make women feel good around you, are nice to them, have them laughing and having a good time, her testing mechanisms and bitch shields won’t ever trigger. be hyper masculine, know what you’re doing, give the ladies a good time and you’ll be just fine.
as said earlier, part of my friend shinken’s game comes from looks. he’s an ok guy in that department, who might be even in great favor in places like skandinavia being of olive skin, but most of all he is a karate master and has a lifetime of discipline and effort behind him. women see and sense a cultivated, sculpted body and read confident movement and posture from a mile away, and both are magnetic pulls there. also, shinken’s body language is great, his shoulders are slightly thrown back and his chest is up when talking to ladies, and his chin is also at times tilted up. nothing extravagant or outrageous, just subtle, effective demonstrations of confidence and masculinity (also huge is the fact that those keys are not being acted, they are an actual identity in this case). adding that up to an easy going conversation and a good sense of humor is a top notch combination. shinken also has the confidence that comes from experience, both in relationships of all forms with women and in bed, and the ladies have been looking for such traits in men forever, so they’ll be ready when you bring them.
getting back to the series at hand, the keyword we’re looking for here is masculinity, that’s also the keyword in some conversations shinken and i had on game and women. there are two quotes i got from shinken, and they have made a huge difference for my game and results because other than that i still do pretty much the same i always had. one came from comments he got and relayed to me from two girlfriends of his that met me at different points in time, it was the typical -yeah, j’s alright (that’s me), he sure seems a nice person-. that’s no good, you can be a perfect gentleman as most men have been throughout history, but there’s got to be an underneath sense of threat there. not to her, but it has to be clear you are not be messed around with. some other time i told shinken i got tired of phone game and chasing after girls that played hard to get or were indecisive and i would just give up, and thus came the second quote (which i’ll do my best to translate from our native español) – you can’t step into the boxing ring and keep your fists down -. that one pretty much means that we play to win, and to win, you got to be ready and willing for the fight, symbolic fight that is. women are drama, feelings, emotional roller -coasting, tantrums, mood changes, testing, challenges, and it never, ever stops; actually it increases as you go getting more desirable women. you better be ready and have your guard on at all times if you really want to get the ladies (women are mostly a lot of incredibly lovely stuff, but you gotta take the nice with the rest and better stand prepared). shinken thus advised me to check spartacus out, and the keys to look for were the evolution of the character and his growth as a man.
so we do get back to discussing the series. the character has not much game to talk of, and clearly his mind is focused into much more pressing matters, such as survival (as it should be given the circumstances). and game is not what we watch this series for, it’s all about masculinity and growth. the character lived a provincial life, he was pretty much nicely set up, doing fine and was relevant in his small community. he was also an accomplished warrior, and a well rounded man in pretty much every way up to then; he also had a gorgeous lady whose love is a major motivation for him throughout the series. then he gets a raw deal from powerful people he crosses paths with, and that past life is gone forever. he faces continual hardship, escapes death by the skin of his teeth numerous times and is given a miserable second chance because of circumstances and because he had flashed immense heart and potential as a gladiator. the character falls to rock bottom (i won’t give details away to not spoil the suspense of actually watching the series), works his way up, earns rewards and consideration, has tragedy strike again on him, but all along he keeps growing, learning, making do, making the most of, expanding his mind and spirit. he becomes the best at his trade and keeps himself motivated either through love or through the pursuit of higher ideals. the character and all the other gladiators are always doing, always pushing, always in action, in pursuit of something; that’s a key component of a masculine identity to you, people.
and that’s our cue. ask yourself this kind of questions as you watch the series: is the character ever defeated? does he break down and stay there? is he reactive, or does he try to make his own luck? does he tend to melodrama? does he consider himself a helpless victim of circumstances? or does he set clear objectives? does he ever lose focus in such objectives? does he persevere no matter what? what experiences and attitudes make the gladiators so masculine? they go initially into the ludus in different stages of development, and they all expand and reach greater levels of accomplishment. and the actors, there are no weaklings there, those are all sculpted and cultivated bodies. take that signal to go work on your physique also. if you fell into similar circumstances, where would you get to? people you know, how would they fare if faced with similar challenges?
so check the series out, keep out an eye for those traits discussed above in order to work on them and develop your masculinity. also check out how other characters in the series, in this case crixus, grows as well, and how he courts and conquers beautiful naevia. the girl was scared and inexperienced in love and felt threatened by the circumstances, but crixus was a top notch option for her, so it was a matter of steady does it and giving her time to give in, which she sure does. crixus was inexperienced as well, but, even as it seemed he was going to be rejected he keeps himself together, acts like a man all the time and this certitude helps naevia make up her mind. also, in the prequel gods of the arena, gannicus is quite a player, what is it that sets him apart from the other gladiators? they all have the masculinity, but gannicus also makes flirting, courtship and sex pleasurable and breezy for the ladies. it’s the same again, masculinity and nice.
women size men up, men are more active, take the initiative more. there are reasons to all that, here i’ll just briefly mention it’s an animal thing, it’s something very primitive. there’s a feminine and a masculine role, in life and in love. when a woman is sizing a man up it’s her body and instinct choosing for her, there are feelings and emotions quite out of her conscious control, it’s an evolutionary thing. the selection of a partner, mating, reproducing are matters of life and death, so those choices are out of the conscious persona. so masculinity has to be there for her to respond, power she will respond to, success, leadership, assuredness, dominance she will respond to also. if you want the ladies, you have to bring those traits, and how do they look like? where can you get models from? check out spartacus: blood and sand on the matter of masculinity.